In Focus With Bertie on Relationships

i do not claim to be a love guru, but this is my little take on relationships.

My view all along on relationships is that it should not be forced but rather it should come naturally like the rising of the sun. Everyone has a right to love and to be loved but there are only so few that would ultimately be able to experience true love as much as they may state otherwise.

How many couples actually come together because they really like each other intitially? very few. I would say that most couples come together on the basis of infactuation and from there on build on but such feelings go away as fast as they come. before you know it, your fairytale relationship could be over in a blink of an eye. but for those that are able to build on, they are really fortunate. but for those that are not, they just move on with life even though they may brood about it for a while.

in modern day society, how many relationships actually really last for a long long time? some end in a blink of an eye while others just ended before it started. there could however be some that just simply last, much to the amazement of others. but today, being in a relationship is no longer as sacred as it is in the past. we stead for the fun of steading, we go into a relationship for the sake of the other half as we may not like them, we steard coz we are bored. where is the value of a girlfriend nowadays? however, i must admit that there could be some exceptions to all these.

open relationships seem to be the hip thing nowadays. with no strings attached & no obligation required. in other words, part-time girlfriend. so technically, one is still single and available. you just turn to her if you need someone to talk too and for some love and comfort if you are in need of some and you are still a couple in the physical and mental sense. isn't this a much better option? but i also reconginse the fact that views differ and this is only my personal point of view. well, i must say that i like this type of relationships as in a way i am currently in one.

the heartbreak of a rejection is not as bad as the heartbreak of a breakup. the impact of the former is far greater than the latter. some people just do not recongnise this fact. if one faces rejections quite a lot of times, there has to be something wrong with the individual rather than the society around it. girls are not superficial though there are some that are. but generally, all a girl want is just someone to love and understand her, looks are only secondary. the primary concern of the girl would of course be the character of the guy. it just happen so that majority of the population happen to be mainly consisted of one size only thus it would be unfair to judge them so.

girls do not like guys with low self esteem, low self confidence and feel like the whole world is against them. why would i know? coz from experience it tells me so. one of my favorite question that i like to ask my female friends is what type of boyfriend they would like? and the general answer that i get from them would be the character of the guy and the confidence that he eludes when with them as they do not like to be out with wimps. looks and size doesn't really matter.

facing a breakup is worst than facing a rejection. i must say that i am lucky not to have face a rejection before as i do not fall head over heels with every girls that i meet or who treat me nicely. rather even if i like you, i would still not make any move until i am certain that you are the girl that i am lookin for. but facing a breakup i had and it took me a fairly long time to recover. up till now, some of the hurt still remains as when you are deep into a relationship and all of a sudden it ended, the impact that it will have on you is nothing compared to getting rejected by your crush. ask around and i believe that those that have experience both can tell you that this is true.

i may have many female friends. more than my male friends i must say but i do know how to draw the line between being friends and chasing after them. i do not fall head over heels in love with all of them and if i do, i think i would have a long line of rejections. haha. sometimes i really wonder how i manage to get to know so many female, given the fact that i am not that good-looking etc. well, i think it jus boils down to being confident about making friends and not being intimidated by the fact that they are female. getting a girlfriend too boils down to self confidence. if you do not believe that you can do it, you never can. and you will always be the loser that you already are. one can whine about it as much as possible but if you complain with no solutions or lacking the will to make the changes. you will die a single.

The life of a singlelite is far better than being in a relationship in my opinion. I really do not see the reason why some peeple would feel depress just because a partner do not come knocking at his or her doorstep? sometimes, not having a girlfriend is much better than having one, financially and spiritually. as a single, i do really enjoy my freedom to go out with whoever i like , girls or guys doesn't matter. to do whatever i want and make friends with whatever people that i want. of coz there are several other reasons which cannot be disclose here. but ya. i really enjoy being "single" though it's highly possible to get a gf. so why don't you too?

haha. to all my fellow singles out there, fret not, a girlfriend or boyfriend will come along in time. the more you look, the more they will not appear. they will appear when you least expect it. True Love does not come easily. not everyone can be one's gf or bf. So why not enjoy Life to its fullest? coz the world will not stop coz you are sad and brooding. it just move on after all you are one of the billions of people that populate the world!