Question to Ponder:

Is it better to have loved, then not to have loved at all?

life currently is interesting. with a lot of interesting happenings. i must admit i am really amazed at the extent of the actions of some of my friends

ignorance is bliss. that is my stand.

some things should really stopped. let's solve things the grown up way. forgiving and forgetting are probably the hardest things to do as compared to hating and ignoring. but with self determination & a big heart, it is possible. between friends, there should really be no bad blood. friends hurting friends through their actions would end up with either party being hurt much more and it would ultimately lead to embarrassment from both parties to admit their mistakes and patch up. and this friendship would simply die away.someone once told me, that it is not easy for a couple to get together. it requires fate, courage and determination to make it happen but in this case it would be friends. it is not easy for a pair to be friends. it takes the same ingredients for it to happen. and for it to die away, it's wasteful.

no matter how hot headed we are. friends are after all a foundation in our lives. something that not many of us can do without. even though claims may be made to be able to do so (like myself) actually i say only la. in the end, i still cant do without my friends. and i believed this is what some others may think. friends are people who filled up the empty spaces in our lives, without them, we are empty and lifeless. might as well be dead.

it is common to have our disagreements and our distastes of some of the actions of our friends. like how i used to hate weiliang, a good friend of mine, for his actions and i clashed with him occasionally over it. falling out most of the times over various decisions that we make as leaders. but in the end we still patch up. coz we knw that it was stupid and childish of either party to be resentful of the other and we recongnise the fact that the bonds of friendship should not be broken over issues like this.

"anger clouds judgement, and that is when the primitive side of the brain takes over" like what my former vice-principal, Mr Alcantara used to tell us when we are hurled to his office for fights, which i am guilty off once or twice. and it was only after tat i left school that the magnitude of his words struck me. maybe that explains my coolheadedness sometimes which jus simply drive my friends nuts, especially my fellow clts. haha. experience in such areas ensure that i maintain a coolhead regardless of how angry i am. :P

i'm not afraid to claim that my experiences are plenty as compared to my peers and i think i am much more matured than them in some ways. i've learned many lessons as a leader, both the hard way and the soft way. and there is always 1 common advice: let's jus weigh both sides of the argument before making any decision. as a wrong move would result in "Checkmate"

stress too plays a part in having clouded judgement. this normally gives way to anger and resentment, which would of course be the end cause. we would not think clearly and in the end, jus gettin angry over little stuffs. haha. sounds familiar? coz we are all guilty of it once in a while. if there was ever such a situation, let peace be my gift to you, through prayers and as a friend.

i am not implyin anything. i am jus stating my thoughts, which i am entitled too. dont read too much into it. :))

no man is an island. no one is alone. God is always there with us, and if He is not there, Friends would make up for the missing space.